Who is perfection really for? What we classify as perfection, such as happiness, success, rewards, acknowledgement, and praise for achievements, are fleeting parts of lives. They are not always consistent, or at least if the perfection you want to achieve is fueled by the validation of others, and that will never make you happy or satisfied with anything you do because you are not doing it for yourself (growth). We live in a world high stimulated by media, news, and technology. Because information is readily available in the palms of our hands, we find ourselves consciously seeking comfort in the things we know and avoid the things we don’t feel comfortable with. As Lisa Olivera says, there is grief in change. Change makes many of us uncomfortable, it makes us question what we knew, and it is human to change or transform thought because we as people evolve in thinking and ideologies. The grief of change is not a negative sign; be careful to not mistaken shifts in society negative or shifts in your life as negative but instead maybe look at it as a necessary growth. It ties into presence and paying attention and being fully aware of the realities of humanity, and that is a beautiful experience that can be daunting. Still, it is better than pretending the harsh realities of the world do not exist.

I say perfection is for those who want to pretend and not be real and honest with themselves. Now I’m not saying living with your imperfection means you become a non-compassionate person who does not care how their actions harm others that is not accountable. I’m saying those who are aware have the patience with themselves & willingness to unlearn and learn, which is healthy steps to accountability. So what does healthy accountability look like? Lisa Olivera has clear posts about it, and here are a few that I find discuss self-compassion with accountability, which is something that gets forgotten when it comes to being more accountable.

Self-compassion with accountability means you acknowledge the issue and present a solution, and if this is a conversation with a partner or friend, they’ll appreciate the CLEAR communication. That’s excellent communication. All talk with no solution is just words. And If you are like me, words will be forgotten, but your actions will be remembered.

When you wish upon a star. It makes no difference who you are—Anything your heart desires. Will not come to you when “wish” this and “wish” that does nothing but empty promises you say so you can feel better about yourself. Now asking for help or asking advice on how to go about something because you are not sure what to do next is fair. And you won’t have the answers to everything, so reaching out to someone to help you better understand and come up with a solution together is again great communication..

Who is perfection really for? Ask yourself that and get back to me when you find the answer.

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